PASTOR’S NOTES for October 20-21, 2018
Congratulations & Blessings to Mr. & Mrs. Francis & Mary Geswein, who celebrate their 70th Wedding Anniversary this weekend. Wow!!! What a witness to a long life of love and fidelity. Please join me in lifting them up in prayer for continued health, happiness, and holiness.
Scriptures encourage us to learn from those who go before us. “My [child], do not forget my teaching, take to heart my commands; For many days, and years of life, and peace, will they bring you” (Proverbs3:1-2). So, recognizing that they likely had much wisdom regarding marriage, family, and relationships after 70 years, I asked if they wanted to share any advice. Here are some suggestions:
- Always put your spouse first.
- It takes two to argue, so if one doesn’t fuss back, the argument stops.
- It’s not important to have the last word.
- Say your meal prayers together as a family.
- Go to church together with the family and together still after the family is grown.
- You know that you have passed on your Faith, ethics, and morals to your children, when you see your grandchildren with the same Faith, morals, ethics, and values. That means that your children passed them on to them.
- Agree on discipline of children and share the disciplining between you.
- Enjoy doing things together, and at the same time, allow your spouse to have their own space and friends. Francis: When she was sewing upstairs and I was framing downstairs, we got along fine. Mary: Going together to a restaurant and meeting your friends and then the women sit together and the men sit together.
- Giving of yourself to others. Francis made rosaries to give out to whomever wanted them. Mary sewed bears, pillows, purses and scarves to give out to family and others.
- Francis: “If your husband doesn’t like fried potatoes, don’t fix them.”
Mary: “If you didn’t like fried potatoes, you should have told me the first time I made them, instead of waiting 40 years!”
- Live your life so that you have no fear of death for you or your spouse.
- Keep busy. We are old enough to die, but we don’t have time to!
These may not be the last word on Marriage, family, and relationships, but they are certainly some wise words. Thank you and May God bless you both.
I would add from my own observation – Francis & Mary are at Mass every weekend, and often through the week! Commitment to God & Commitment to Spouse likely go hand in hand.
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